Friday, 26 November 2021

Caregiver Guide

 

Volume 57. Caregiver Guide

 

Chapter 1. The Caregiving Process

 

Everybody Will Care For an Elderly or Disabled Person

 

I watched my mother gets Alzheimer's Disease.

 

I watched others get hepatitis and cancer.

 

I watched a friend break at least a dozen bones in a car accident.

 

It's sad to see strong people wither away but it happens all the time.  Aging is normal.  Diseases are normal.  Accidents are normal.

 

Look in the mirror.  I got one eye now.  I’m waiting for a cataract operation.

 

I suggest you go to the library and get some caregiving books at #362.175-179 or RA997 and RC963 and check out some of the websites I list below.

 

Don't cry too much.  Try to be loving.

 

Caregiving/ Eldercare 1

 

Have faith, hope, clarity and love.

Caregiver's mantra

 

A caregiver is someone who either lives with the person or comes in for anywhere from a few hours to a fulltime shift everyday.  The caregiver is usually a relative, good friend, lover or hired help.

 

Caregiving is often a team effort between patient and helper unless the patient is so far gone he or she can't communicate.

 

Think of the patient as the boss, working with the helper to get what he or she wants as long as they're not too bossy or self-centered about it.

 

A caregiver's basic daily responsibilties are as follows:

 

Encourage the patient to stay hydrated by drinking plenty of liquids, not alcohol.

 

Safeguard against infection by keeping the living area clean.

 

Assist with daily bathing, toileting and dressing.

 

Keeping skin clean and moisturized.

 

Turn bedridden patients to another position at least every one to two hours to avoid bed sores.

 

Help the patient get some exercise.

 

Check vital signs in the morning, at night and anytime a new symptom emerges.

 

Be a daily companion.

 

Bathe patient and move him around the house.

 

Assist with daily meals, dressing and routine medications.

 

Look in on patients who live alone.

 

Help raise the patient's children or deal with their relatives.

 

Give patient a regular shave, shampoo, haircut, etc.

 

Help with personal requests.

 

Drive patient to and from doctor and hospital visits.

 

Get the mail and accept hand deliveries

 

Drop off and pick up dry cleaning

 

Do the bank duties but don't embezzle money.

 

Drive patient to and from daily activities.

 

Take care of home and car maintenance.

 

Do errands.

 

Clean the trash.

 

Shop for groceries.

 

Have prescriptions filled.

 

Pick up medical supplies.

 

Prepare meals.

 

Do laundry.

 

Take care of pets.

 

Handle the bills and personal affalrs.

 

Administer medications.

 

Know when to call the doctor or the local emergency number.

 

Constantly ask the patient what would he or she like you to do to make his life easier.

 

The biggest problem between caregiver and patient regardless of whether it's a relative or hired help is assuming things and not communicating enough such that you see eye to eye and there's a clear understanding between the two of you.

 

Work on the following guidelines together:

 

Be positive about the situation.

 

Educate yourselves about the illness and the pragmatic realities of dealing with it.

 

Determine how much professional help and outside care, if any, you need.

 

Make a plan of how to live with the illness.  Decide how far you'll go, either full recovery or comfort in a modified form.

 

Consider possible obstacles and how you'll deal with them.  Have contingency plans like how you'll get to the hospital in case of emergency.

 

Stick with a good plan and adjust it as necessary.

 

Caregiving is generally tough emotionally both on the patient and the relatives.  If the caregiver is hired help, it's often a tough job on them.  There's often anger, denial, depression and finally acceptance and compromise.  You have to learn to work with it.

 

Cooperate with the medical professionals as best as you can.  They're there to help you.  Help the patient by getting involved with them and finding as much information as you can about the illness and how to control it.  be empathetic and sensitive to what the patient is going through.

 

If you take liberties with the patient such as steal their money or things, give them negligent care, etc., it's illegal and you will be charged criminally if caught.

 

Caregiving is very hard work.  It's not like caring for a child.  It's caring for a full grown adult which is tougher.  If they're of sound mind, they may even become antagonistic towards you.

 

They feel a loss of dignity because they can't take care of themselves so they often lash out against those closest to them, the caregiver.

 

Try to be positive.  Offer creative solutions to the patient's impediments.  Try to understand his or her life.  If you can't handle it alone, get help.

 

It's often sudden after hospitalization.

 

It's demeaning because you're very close physically to them and have to do embarrassing things like tend to bathroom needs.

 

You must give them their dignity and some independence.  You need your own life.  Try to strike a balance between care and your own life.

 

Don't be haphazard about it.  Get organized.  Write important phone numbers down.  Try to get help from relevant organizations in the community.  Look in the phonebook for local senior organizations.

 

Set up a meeting with relatives and other relevant people.  Make a plan and a budget.  Try to make the care interactive, spread out over several family members so that the burden is not on just one.

 

Set up a home health care team for all the people involved in the care of the patient.  Set up a routine.  Try to keep them inspired about life as much as you can.

 

Have a support network of friends and family.  If they feel good enough, consider vocational rehabilitation, retraining to go back to work.

 

Attitude is everything.  Join a support group if you feel so inclined.  Get professional counseling if you feel you need it.

 

The illness will be a drain of money so save well, manage your money, leard about your medical insurance plan and the government's medical assistance programs.

 

There is often a point where you have to send a senior to a nursing home.  Some older people are very protective about their homes.  They will not want to move out.  You'll have to coax them gently.

 

Try not to make decisions without the afflicted person.  Give them input into their own lives.  There will be a lot of emotions on both sides, some of it negative.  Try to make it a bonding period.

 

Books about caregiving are at #362.6, #649.8 or HV1475 at the library.

 

Caregiving/ Eldercare 2

 

Caregiving can be stressful and exhausting.  If you are caring for a loved one who has Alzheimer's disease or some other condition, learn all you can about the disease so you can be adequately prepared to deal with it.

 

Watch your older relatives for warning signs that they can't take care of themselves.  A messy house is a dead giveway as is poor personal hygeine, malnutrition, a confused disposition, memory loss, etc.

 

Make all necessary legal and ?nancial arrangements including advance directives, durable power of attorney and payment of healthcare costs.

 

Contact a lawyer to take care of all estate paperwork.

 

Take precautions to protect your loved one from potential dangers such as falls, burns, poisoning and wandering away from home.  Put an address card in their jacket pockets.

 

Lock away hazardous objects and materials including medications, cleaning ?uids, matches, lighters and ?rearms).

 

Install locks on doors and windows.

 

Placing night-lights from the bedroom to the bathroom.

 

Contact your doctor, local hospitals and volunteer, community and health organizations for information about help, assistance and support.

 

Join a caregiver or disease support group.

 

Consider hiring a professional caregiver through a home health agency.

 

Prepare yourself to deal with the eventual loss of your loved one.

 

A lot of people aren't suited to give car, even to a relative.  They either have no patience or it's just sad to see your relative who was once strong and healthy degenerate into an old bag of bones.

 

It's kinda like to put your parent into some impersonal nursing home is like cutting someone's spirit out because they'll have no free space and no privacy anymore, surrounded by strangers, waiting to die.  It's sad.  It's tough to choose what to do; take care of a parent on your own with help from others or give them up to a nursing home.

 

In some cases, there is no choice.  The person is too disabled to carry on at home even with a caregiver or two to help.  In that case, it's a relief because it's beyond your control.  Find your own line of homecare versus transfer to nursing home care.

 

Start thinking about long-term care.  Gather information about longterm-care facilities in your area.

 

Follow a healthy lifestyle.

 

There are a few major rules of homecare:

 

Yesterday's gone.  This is life as lived now, not in your heyday when you were all strong and young.

 

Don't do it alone.  Let other siblings, friends and relatives help.

 

Take care of your own identity and self while doing the caregiving.

 

Be realistic.  As you see your loved one further slip away, you have to confront the hard decisions.

 

Don't leave caregiving at the back of your mind.  Plan now, first for your parent to move in with you or you with him then for the move to the nursing home.  There are basic indicators; can he take care of basic life activities like buying food and paying bills, can he clean himself, is he lonely?

 

The major forms of caregiving are:

 

Go to live with afflicted at their home.

 

The afflicted comes to live with you at your home.

 

Adult daycare, patient goes there several hours a day.

 

Respite, patient goes anywhere from a day to a few weeks at a time.

 

Caregiver who comes in for several hours a day.

 

Visiting nurse.

 

Residential care.

 

Assisted living facility, group home.

 

Assisted living, continuing care retirement community.

 

Nursing home.

 

Palliative care, hospice.

 

There are many matters to take care of like:

 

Financial.

Legal.

Medicare.

Pension.

Medications.

Doctor visits.

Diet.

Safety in the home.

Religion.

Social.

Recreation.

Death.

Will.

Funeral.

Estate.

 

Some elderly people have to be restrained.  Although they have a driver's license, they're not really competent to drive.

 

If the person is incompetent mentally and/ or physically, you may have to get a Power of Attorney to manage their affairs.

 

Illness often leads to death before one's time.  Be ready for it.  Face reality.  Get financial affairs in order.  Talk to a lawyer.  Make funeral arrangements now.  Affirm your life by preparing for the afterlife with your God.

 

Finally, caregiving as a vocation or as an obligation to a loved one can be very stressful because you develop an emotional connection to the patient and feel guilty if you're not around all the time but in order to be the best caregiver you can be, you need to find a balance with the patient and your own life, particularly your relationship with your spouse and your children, especially if they're under 18 years old.

 

Take a break from caregiving here and there.

 

Get enough sleep.

 

Get some fresh air and physical activity.

 

Watch your health.  Wash yourself after dealing with the patient.

 

Watch your mood to see if you feel overwhelmed or are getting depressed.

 

Caregiving/ Eldercare 3

 

Most of us don't realize how tough it is to live through the process of going from strong person to frail one.  They can't do simple tasks that you and I take for granted.

 

Slow down and listen to them.  Feel their pain.  Don't fight.  Don't attack their pride.  Just make mild suggestions.  Don't say you can't do that.  Just offer an alternative suggestion.  Go slow with them.

 

A family is there to help each other.  You should feel obligated to help your parents even if they don't ask for it because they're probably too proud.  Talk to them as adults talking to adults.  Be gentle, understanding and compassionate.

 

In some cases, it may get to the point where you have to parent the parent.  In such cases, be easy with them, treat them with kid gloves.

 

Everybody has a certain amount of pride.  They may resent feeling less than independent so proceed lightly.

 

You have to overcome these psychological, emotional type barriers that could come between you helping your parents.  Be nice but give them their space and dignity.  Talk about everything and anything that might affect them;

Money

 

Health

 

Housing

 

Boredom

 

Staying active

 

Social life

 

Marriage

 

Relationship for a widow

 

Legal

 

Will

 

Death

 

Dying

 

Aging

 

Family issues

 

Government

 

Social security

 

Medicare

 

Possible depression

 

Mental health problems

 

Loneliness

 

Stress

 

Regressing into the past

 

Poorer eyesight

 

Taking their medication

 

Alcohol

 

Eating properly

 

Keeping clean

 

Whether they notice signs of slowdown

 

If they can drive properly

 

If they have someone to talk to day by day even a pet

 

Shopping for groceries

 

Your relationship with them.

 

Other things

 

Try to resolve all unsolved baggage within the family to smooth things out for everybody like if two siblings are at odds with each other, try to get them to make peace so the parents know before it's too late.

 

Talk about yourself, your own life, your own problems, hopes and dreams, etc.  Try to make your parents see that they raised a good person who wants to continue the torch they started and pass it on for the good of humanity.

 

Most children and young adults never even conceive that they'll someday have to help their parents out but if they're good people, their parents will need their help and they'll help them.  The fact is that people get old and die, they get sick and have to take care of their affairs.

 

Both sides are reluctant to do these things.  The father doesn't want to have to reveal weaknesses to the kids and the kids are too embarrassed to ask the parents if they need help but the fact is that at some point in time,

You must talk about things to get them straightened away before the inevitable happens and it all becomes a big mess.

 

If you have brothers and sisters, all of you should get involved in this process.  Beyond medical matters, the main issues are financial and legal matters like the parents should tell the kids where the money is, make up legal wills, prepare for death and the funeral, etc.  You should write it all down and keep it in notes.

 

Parents get fragile with age.  You should help them out but leave them their dignity.  Don't mother them.  Give them space.  Let them make most of the decisions themselves unless they start acting irrationally.

 

Talk to them human to human to get over any unresolved baggage from childhood.  Act like an adult.  Make them treat you like an adult not like the kid you were 20 years ago.

 

Think prevention.  That means help them stay active in social activities, exercise, eating the right foods, avoiding fat and junk foods, believe in something, anything other than to just vegetate, use it or lose it both physically and mentally.

 

Keep an interest in the doctors they go to and the treatments they're getting to watch that they're not getting ripped off and watch out if they go for quack alternative therapies for things like arthritis, fountain of youth, etc.

 

Everything will start to go.  They are a limited version of the vibrant people they once were.  You must accept that and help them out.

 

Their eyesight will be weak, hearing will be weaker, memory will go, they'll feel tired, arthritis will creep in, joints will wear out, incontinence, ulcers, etc.  You owe it to them to educate yourself and them about these disorders.

 

Keep an eye on your parents that they stay clean, keep the house clean and try to look their bodies over inconspicuously for signs of sores or any other types of illnesses.

 

Watch for little things like do they wear clean clothes, changing and washing them often, do they drink much alcohol, do they live in a fog of prescription drugs, do they watch TV all day long, do they live in the past, etc.

 

Isolation and alienation are part of growing old especially after one part of a couple dies.  The other feels lonely and may regress to living in the nostalgia of the past.

 

That's alright as long as they don't lose a complete hold on reality.  Many widows and widowers of long marriages die very soon after the first dies, it's a fact of life.

 

Hospitals and nursing homes are a drag.  When a parent goes, make it a point to visit them, bring uplifting gifts like flowers and try to get them to get up and around.

 

Don't listen to everything the doctors say.  I'm a strong believer in a concept called iatrogenesis which means that hospitals make patients sicker and doctors actually create new diseases to diagnose the patients and keep them in the hospital or on treatments to make money not necessarily to help them.

 Think twice before committing your parents to a nursing home or a retirement community.  Despite what they say, the old-fashioned way is better, to have the parents live with their children in an extended family situation.

 

Build them a basement apartment or a small cottage in the yard if possible or if you can afford it, buy them a small house near where you live.

 

Living with your parents is like living with a spouse.  There will be bad times and disagreements so take it cool when it happens.  Many seniors in nursing homes die of a broken heart.

 

If you commit your parents, try to visit them as often as possible.  Some areas have housing programs for seniors.  Check with your local agency on aging.

 

As your parents near death, you may vie for a hospital stay, hospice care or you may choose to have them spend their last remaining time at home in a peaceful setting.

 

Don't get overly dramatic, just give them a peaceful, quiet, gentle atmosphere with which to pass on.  Touch him and hold him and love him when he's dying.  It's the best you can do.  Let him lay in peace for awhile if you want.  Call your friends and relatives to tell them about it.

 

In the end, you'll probably grieve for awhile then you have to accept it as part of life and know that your legacy is to honor your parents by being the best person you can be in the world.

 

If your parents' taxable income is less than about $2700 and they're your dependent, you can deduct some of the cost of your support, caregiver and medical expenses on your tax return.

 

Get Form 2441 from the IRS at 800-829-3676, irs.gov.  If you share the burden with siblings, get Form 2120.

 

Check out your local YMCA for courses for seniors.  Gardening is a good activity.

 

Check out your local agency on aging for resources on just about anything related to seniors.  Eldercare Locator, 800-677-1116, eldercare.com, will give you a list of local facilities for medical services.

 

The National Meals On Wheels Program is located at givemeals.com, 800-999-6262.

 

A/PACT stands for parents and adult children together.

 

The Sandwich Generation means the parents, their adult children and their grandchildren.

 

Books about talking to and caring for aging parents are at #306.874 and HQ1063 at the library.

 

Caregiving/ Eldercare 4

 

Can you afford time off work to care for your parent?  Have you talked to your children?  You can still work and they can help out.  Have him come live at your house.  Sell his house, build an extra room or apartment onto your house.

 

What are your senior's exact medical, legal and financial issues?

 

How is the person coping now?

 

Who will take care of him day by day?

 

Is your senior mobile?  Is there a need for a walker, scooter or wheelchair?

 

Will he stay at home or move to a nursing home?

What can the community offer life adult daycare, meals on wheels, senior social center?

 

What is the proximity of the senior's house to you, his doctor, the hospital, etc.  If it's too far, better to move now than later.

 

It's not very hard to see if someone is declining.  The house looks messy.  They look messy.  They can't talk in a straight way all the time.  Their spirit is gone.

 

When you first realize that you will or should care for an aging parent, you often feel overwhelmed, wondering how you'll cope.

 

Tell your relatives and her friends.  Ask for help.

 

Reassure her that you'll take care of things.

 

Redo the house to suit her needs.

 

Possibly quit work, take leave or a few wekks off to set her up in the home.

 

You not only have to take care of her at home but become her advocate and spokesperson for medical care.  You have to be up on experimental treatments, what could possibly help her that her insurance company is leery about because it costs them money.

 

You have to drive her to the hospital, visit her then drive her back home.

 

Help her do what she wants to make her happy.

 

Some adult children sleep in the same bedroom so they just reach over to turn them over every few hours.

 

Memory and mobility will go.  Feed the person healthy food, try to get them up and about physicially and keep their minds active.

 

Install grab bars in bathrooms where the senior might have balance problems.

 

Consider installing a raised toilet seat.

 

Add sturdy handrails wherever you think they'll help.

 

If the senior is still walking the stairs, remove all loose rugs and coverings.  Make sure that the handrail is sturdy.

 

Throw out flimsy chairs.  Get sturdy chairs.

 

Your aging parent wants you to love her, listen to her and help her.

 

In the end, you're tired.  The person who was once strong and vital is not the same person you see now.  All of us answer to the physical limits of nature.

 

You might have to move your parent to the hospital or hospice so they can get drugs to die in comfort.

 

Make up a living will or advanced directive regarding medical treatment if the parent lapses out of consciousness.

 

If your parent is dying little by little with the organs shutting down, they will be out of consciousness.  There is no sense calling the doctor or ambulance.  Let them die in peace then call the funeral home.  It's nature.  Don't try to prolong the inevitable.  If there is no quality of life left, it's time to move on.

 

After it's over, you have to readjust to normal life again.  That will take a year or so.

 

Now I have to tell you the truth of the matter.  There is a loss of dignity when you shove the bowl under your parent for them to poop then you wipe their butt but at this point life takes more precedent.  It's better to hang on like this than to die because you love your parent and want them to keep living.

 

Once you divorce love from it, death is common.  Several dozen people die everyday in any fair-sized city.  Life goes on. The next generation repeats the cycle then they pass.  Dying is a part of living.  The sooner you accept it for you and your loved ones the better.

 

Dying at home in your sleep is the best case scenario possible.  It beats dying a violent death or dying in a hospital.

 

Take care of financial affairs before they pass.  Ask for your parent's financial papers.  Get power of attorney.  Spend money to help him but don't spend so much that he loses the house.

 

Sometimes, people sell the house for economic reasons.  The only alternative is a nonprofit nursing home.

 

If one parent dies and the other is alive, you might have to help that parent with practical things.  A lot of women, at least in the past, never dealth with the finances of the house.  Get them a copy of my money book.

 

Caregiving One-Liners 1

 

Seeing a loved one deteriorate is always a shock at first.  You have to take control, plan out a reasonable daily routine.

 

Talk about the situation to the level that you feel comfortable with.  The sick person is probably in denial, ashamed and doesn't want to talk.

 

Don't let the sick person put a guilt trip on you and try to make you do more than you reasonably can.  Some sick people get clingy and always want you around.

 

It's really hard to change people, especially old sick people.  Try to tell them that what you are doing is good for them.

 

Try to help but ultimately it's that person's illness.  Only they can try to stay inspired about their lives.

 

If the sick person does not want to talk and express himself, that's fine.  You can only do so much.

 

Some people like friends and relatives are busybodies.  They will tell you what to do and give plenty of unsolicited advice.

 

No matter what, everybody needs rest.

 

There is still intimacy.  If you're caring for your spouse, you can still be affectionate and sexual.

 

Don't let anyone try to abuse you or try to take advantage of you.

 

Don't be afraid to ask for help if you think you need it.

 

Don't feel guilty about having fun sometimes.

 

Don't be too dependent on the other person.

 

Don't hesitate or stall about doing something that is good for you.

 

Try to relax.

 

Try not to isolate yourself.  It can make you feel alone.

 

You can't stop death.  Honorable dying people want you to be the best you can be.

 

Try to have fun and even go out sometimes, if just for a car drive.

 

Get enough sleep.

 

Eat healthy foods.

 

Get some exercise.

 

Go to church if you're a believer.

 

Do funeral planning in advance.

 

Keep your sense of love even when you feel like crying or get angry.

 

You can't do anything about your loved one's state of health.  Just try to keep everything happy and comfortable.

 

Take care of your finances.  Money books are at #332 at the library.

 

Take care of your own health.

 

Try to make medical appointments.

 

Oxygen is the key to life.  Be physically and mentally active to get oxygen to the brain and through the body.

 

There is a certain amount of hope and a certain amount of inevitability.  Try to live an inspired life everyday no matter what.  You achieve that by doing something that comes from your true nature as I've talked about in my book A Free Spirit's Search For Enlightenment.

 

Everybody dies.  I already made peace with my death.  It's no big deal.  I'm on borrowed time.  I escaped death already by living through bad accidents.  Until then I will cherish life but when my time comes, I won't cry.  I will do it with nobility.

 

Check out local hospices.

 

Make final arrangements.

 

Try to tell others that it's ok that you're dying.  It's normal.  Treat you like a friend until the very end.

 

Dying is a part of living.  Move on and continbue to release your free spirit as fully as possible after loved ones die.

 

Caregiving One-Liners 2

 

Visit the patient regularly with love.

 

Do grocery shopping.

 

Ask what you can do to help.

 

Offer to stay with the patient.

 

Give book or mp3s of short stories.  

 

Offer to go places together, even a walk or a ride.

 

Do things to make them feel included and less isolated.  

 

Include the patient and family in your activities.

 

Do not visit if you have a cold or the flu.  

 

Make it clear that you are there to help and give support, not to offer sympathy.  

 

Be calm and just be there.

 

Be a good listener.

 

Reassure  them by saying you have chosen freely to be there.  

 

Treat the patient as if you expect them to live.  

 

Allow them to express anger.

 

Help them relieve stress.

 

Express love at every opportunity.  

 

Touch, hug, kiss.  

 

The patient needs reassurance that you are caring.

 

Give them little gifts.

 

Be a friend.

 

Be cheerful.  

 

Don’t be depressed.

 

Be honest with the patient.

 

Treat the patient as a worthy individual.

 

Talk like an adult.  Don’t treat them like kids.

 

Evn though someone is sick, they are still that person who was loving, had interests, etc.

 

Do not assume the patient is going to die.  

 

Many are cured.

 

Bring messages, music and books of support.

 

Share your feelings.  

 

Help them talk and share their feelings.

 

Encourage them to be physically and mentally active.

 

Be funny and laugh.  

 

Watch funny movies.  

 

Do not tell horror stories of other patients.

 

Reminisce about good times.  

 

Have an optimistic outlook.

 

Encourage the patient to try anything that gets them moving.

 

Be natural and loving.

 

You Might Have to Support Your Parents

 

It's possible that your parents run out of money and you have to support them, especially if they get sick or injured.  Older people get sick or lose their mind through Alzheimer's then their pension is not enough to cover their medical expenses.  Medicare only covers about 53 percent of health care costs for its recipients.

 

Learn about money from either my money book or get books at #332 at the library.

 

The National Family Caregiver Support Program (NFCSP)

 

The National Family Caregiver Support Program, funded by the federal Older Americans Act, Title III E, is an organization that helps people of any age who serve as unpaid caregivers for people ages sixty and older.

 

The goal of this program is to relieve the emotional, physical, and financial hardships of providing continual care.

 

National Family Caregivers Association

10604 Concorde Street

#501

Kensington MD 20895-2504

800-896-3650

nfcacares.org

info@nfcacares.org.

 

Chapter 2. The Caregiver Has to Take Care of Themselves Too

 

A Caregiver's Bill of Rights

 

The American Association of Retired Persons at aarp.org and the National Well Spouse Foundation (wellspouse.org)  have published a Caregiver's Bill of Rights which are guidelines for caregivers to live by.  The following points come from the article Helping an Aged Loved One by Jo Horne.  Use the list as guideline but add your own points to it as you go along.

 

I have the right:

 

To take care of myself. This is not an act of selfishness.  It will give me the capability of taking better care of my relative.

 

To seek help from others even though my relative may object. I recognize the limits of my own endurance and strength.

 

To maintain facets of my own life that do not include the person I care for, just as I would if he or she were healthy.  I know that I do everything that I reasonably can for this person and I have the right to do some things just for myself.

 

To get angry, be depressed and express other difficult feelings occasionally.

 

To reject any attempt by my relative either conscious or unconscious-to manipulate me through guilt, anger or depression.

 

To receive consideration, affection, forgiveness and acceptance for what I do from my loved one for as long as I offer these qualities in return.

 

To take pride in what I am accomplishing and to applaud the courage it has sometimes taken to meet the needs of my relative.

 

To protect my individuality and my right to make a life for myself that will sustain me in the time when my relative no longer needs my full-time help.

 

To expect and demand that as new strides are made in finding resources to aid physically and mentally impaired persons in our country, similar strides will be made toward aiding and supporting caregivers.

 

The Caregiver Needs Help/ Caregiver Support Groups

 

When you care for someone like an aging parent or a relative with some disease like Alzheimer's or cancer, you could get worn out because it never ends.

 

Support groups can be in person or they can be online.  There are some health care providers like the local hospital that provides caregiver support groups.

 

A caregiver support group might help you emotionally but you can also get practical knowledge and ideas from them.

 

Look up Home Health Services in your local phone book.  Your best bet is to find a doctor who specializes in homecare, contact your local health and human services offices for referrals and find a support group.

 

Home health care books are at #649.8 and RC108 at the library.  Books about dying at home are at #362.196 or R726.8 at the library.

 

nfcacares.org/connecting_caregivers.caregiver_community_action_network.cfm, caregiver community action network.

 

aaaphx.org/caregiver+support+groups, phoenix, az.

aging.lacity.org/caregivers/support.cfm, los angeles.

alznyc.org/caregivers/support.asp

anokacounty.us/v1_seniors/caregivers/caregiver-support-groups.asp

cancerlifeline.cmiregistration.com/supportgroups.aspx, this group is designed specifically for caregivers

caregiver.com

caregiver.org

caregiversupportservices.org, caregiver support services of omaha, ne.

caregiving.com

carersconnectint.com, support group for caregivers.

caring.com/tips/caregiver-support-groups

dhss.delaware.gov/dhss/dsaapd/caregivesg.html, caregiver information and support.

eldercare.com, the advantages of caregiver support groups geistblogs.com/blog/alzheimer-association-local-family-caregiver-support-groups, indianapolis, in.

groups.

helpguide.org/elder/caring_for_caregivers.htm

mskcc.org/mskcc/html/18092.cfm, sloan-kettering help for caregivers, families and friends

nncf.unl.edu/family/eldercare/tips-caregiver/caregiver-support-groups

parents.berkeley.edu/recommend/therapy/caregiver.html, berkeley parents network: caregiver support pbs.org/wgbh/caringforyourparents/handbook/caringcaregiver/supportgroups.html

scrc.signonsandiego.com, southern caregiver resource center, san diego, ca.

ssw.unc.edu/cares/aaafile.htm, north carolina.

westchestergov.com/aging/caregiverssupportgroups.htm

 

American Self Help Clearinghouse

St. Clare's-Riverside Medical Center

100 E. Hanover Ave.

#202

Cedar Knolls, Nj 07927-2020

800-For-Mash

800-367-6274

973-326-6789

973-326-8853

973-625-7101

973-625-9053, Tdd

Fax: 973-625-8848

Fax: 973-326-9467

ashc@cybernex.net

cmhc.com/selfhelp

selfhelpgroups.org

Mostly mental health help but also help in locating local support groups in most conditions.

 

Chapter 3. Caregiving Resources

 

"Find Caregiving" Websites

 

a nationwide network of local agencies that provides aging services known as the Aging Network in the U.S.

eldercare.gov/Eldercare.NET/Public/Index.aspx

Eldercare Locator
1-800-677-1116

 

caregiver.org

 

aarp.org/applications/search/search.action?q=caregiving, AARP Caregiving Resource Center.

alz.org/we_can_help_caresource.asp, Alzheimers Association CareSource™.

medicare.gov/caregivers, Caregiver Information at Medicare.gov.

cfad.org/, Caring From a Distance.
 
caregiver.org/caregiver/jsp/home.jsp, FCA: Family Caregiver Alliance.
A community-based nonprofit organization

 

caregiver.org/caregiver/jsp/fcn_content_node.jsp?nodeid=2083, state-by-state Family Care Navigator

 

familycaregiving101.org/index.cfm, Family Caregiving 101.
the National Family Caregivers Association (NFCA) and the National Alliance for Caregiving (NAC).

web.raffa.com/nac/axa/, National Alliance for Caregiving’s Family Care Resource Clearinghouse.

nfcacares.org/, National Family Caregivers Association.

ltcombudsman.org, The National Long-Term Care Ombudsman Resource Center.
includes a state by state locator to find local Long-Term Care Ombudsman. 

 

nextstepincare.org/, Next Step in Care.
easy-to-use guides to help family caregivers and health care providers work closely together

 

caregiver.va.gov/, VA Caregiver Support.
The caregiving site of the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs

 

revolutionhealth.com/healthy-living/caring/basics/get-started/help-find-it

elderweb.com

bestcaregiverinfo.com/articles.shtml

bestcaregiverinfo.com

nfcacares.org, the national family caregivers association, 800-896-3650

respitelocator.org

thearc.org, the national organization of and for people with mental retardation and related developmental disabilities and their families.

aarp.org, the american association of retired persons (aarp).

caregiver.org

caregiving.org

aoa.gov/prof/aoaprog/caregiver/carefam/where_to_find_help/where_to_find_help.asp

aoa.gov, u.s. dept. of health and human services, administration on aging

carepages.com

rediclinic.com

extendhealth.com

revolution.com

casefoundation.org

 

American Health Care Association (AHCA)

1201 L St., N.W.

Washington, DC 20005

(202) 842-4444

ahca.org

 

FamilyCare America

1004 N. ThompsonSt. Suite 205

Richmond, VA 23230

(804) 342-2200

info@familycareamerica.com

familycareamerica.com

 

Family Caregiver Alliance

180 Montgomery St. Suite 11001

San Francisco, CA 94104

(415) 434-3388

800-445-8106

info@caregiver.org

caregiver.org

 

National Alliance for Caregiving

4720 Montgomery Lane Fifth Floor

Bethesda, MD 20814

info@caregiving.org

caregiving.org

 

National Center for Assisted Living

1201 L Street, NW

Washington, DC 20005

(202) 842-4444

ncal.org

 

National Family Caregivers Association

10400 Connecticut Ave Suite 500

Kensington, MD 20895-3944

800-896-3650

(301) 942-6430

nfcacares.org

 

The Well Spouse Foundation

63 West Main St. Suite H

Freehold, NJ 07728

(732) 577-8899

800-838-0879

wellspouse.org

 

AARP

601 E Street NM

Washington, DC 20049

1-888-OUR-AARP

(1-888-687-2277)

AARP.com

 

Eldercare Locator

Provides help in finding local services for seniors.

800-677-1116

eldercare.gov

 

National Family Caregiver Support Program

Administration on Aging

Washington, DC 20201

(202) 619-0724

800-677-1116

aoainfo@aoa.gov

aoa.gov/caregivers

 

U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development

451 7th St. SW

Washington, DC 20410

Phone: (202) 708-1112

TTY: (202) 708-1455

hud.gov

 

Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services

7500 Security Blvd.

Baltimore, MD 21244-1850

1-800-MEDICARE

medicare.gov

 

Health Care Finance Administration

1-877-267-2323

hcfa.gov

 

Major Caregiving Websites

 

Try #362.1968, #649.8 or RA645.35 and RC108-RC271 or RT61 at the library.

 

caregiver.org, family caregiver alliance offers programs at national, state and local levels to support and sustain caregivers.

familycaregiving101.org

caregiving.org, national alliance for caregiving is a non-profit coalition of national organizations focusing on issues of family caregiving.

thefamilycaregiver.org

caregiver.com

caringtoday.com

nfcacares.org, 800-896-3650, national family caregivers assn.

jointcommission.org/generalpublic/choices/hc_asl.htm, helping you choose quality assisted living.

eeoc.gov/policy/docs/caregiving.html eldercare.gov

aarp.org/caregiving

familycaregiving101.com

carersblog.wordpress.com

la4seniors.com/assisted_living.htm, guide to finding and checking an assisted living facility

aarp.org/family/caregiving/

caregiving.com

caregiver.org

caregiversupportnetwork.org

nfcacares.org, national family caregivers association offering support to caregivers along with free membership in the organization.

caregiver.com

babyboomercaretaker.com caremanager.org, geriatric care manager for a fee, does tasks.

caremanager.org, professional caregivers.

n4a.org, national assn. of area agencies on aging

elderaffairs.state.fl.us

agingcarefl.org

agingcarefl.org/caregiver/NationalSupport, national family caregiver support program

medicare.gov/caregivers

aftergiving.com

extendedcare.com, 800 654 0889, allscripts care management

caregiversnetwork.org, 866 634 9412

caregiving.com

caringinfo.org, 800 658 8898

caregiver.org

socialworkers.org

caregiverslibrary.org

nfcacares.org, national family caregivers assn.

caregiver.com

citehealth.com

growthhouse.org

 

Family Caregiver Alliance 690 Market St.

#600

San Francisco, CA 94104

415-434-3388

415-435-3308(fax)

info@caregiver.org

caregiver.org

 

Caregiver Websites 1

 

Try #362.1968, #649.8 or RA645.35 and RC108-RC271 or RT61 at the library.

 

aahsa.org, american assn. of homes and services for the aging.

aahsa.org/consumer_info/default.asp, assisted living/continuing care consumer resources

aaoms.org, oral and maxiillofacial surgeons.

aarp.org/caregive, 800-424-3410, american assn. of retired persons.

aarp.org/family/caregiving

aarp.org/research/housing-mobility/assistedliving

abcdependentcare.com, 800-447-0543, american business collaboration for quality dependent care.

abcdependentcare.com, american business collaboration for quality dependent care

access.digex.net/~nova, 800-try-nova, victim assistance.

achca.org, healthcare administrators.

ache.org, health care executives.

acor.org, click on "mailing lists" then click on caregivers.  cancer caregiving information applies to other conditions.

acsu.buffalo.edu/drstall/hndbk0, how to care for elders.

adapt.org, american disabled for attendant programs today, information on alternatives to nursing homecare.

adaptenv.org, adaptive environments.

agedcarecrisis.com

ageinfo.org

ageinfo.org/naicweb/elderloc

agenet.com

aging.lacity.org/caregivers, los angeles.

agingindependently.org

agingnets.com, network of private practice geriatric social workers who care for older folks for a fee.

aging-parents-and-elder-care.com

ahaf.org, american health assistance foundation.

ahca.org, health care administrators, publications about nursing homes.

airs.org, alliance of information and referral systems, information in the human services.

alfa.org, assisted living federation of america.

alfa.org, assisted living.

alfa.org/public/articles/index.cfm?cat=6, assisted living state by state listings.

alliance1.com, alliance for children and families

americaneldercare.com, florida home and long-term care.

aoa.dhhs.gov, health and human services.

asktransitions.com/testimon.html, eldercare consulting firm.

assistguide.com

bausch.com, human resources from bausch-lomb.

bcbsnj.com, blue cross and blue shield of nj.

beingafamily.com/eldercare/

caphis.mlanet.org/consumer/seniorhealth.html, caring for aging elderly parents

caps4caregiver.org, children of aging parents

caps4caregivers.org, 800-227-7294, children of aging parents.

caps4caregivers.org, children of aging parents

careerplanning.                                  dead website, try dotdash.com, thoughtco.com, thebalance.com, tripsavvy.com and verywell.com
/od/balancingworkandfamily/a/elder_care.htm

caregiver.com

caregiver.org, 800-445-8106, family caregiver alliance.

caregiver.va.gov

caregiver911.com

caregiveraction.org, caregiver action network; offers caregiver resources, education, support, and advocacy.

caregiverresource.net/radio_programs.php, radio show, podcast.

caregiverresourcecenter.com

caregivers.com

caregiverscinti.com/services.htm, caregivers health network inc of cincinnati

caregivershome.com medicalnewstoday.com/articles/76987.php, seven tips to make life easier for people caring for loved ones.

caregiversworld.com

caregiverzone.com

caregiving.com

caregiving.org

caregivingwithlove.com careguide.com

careguide.net, 800-777-3319, 800-227-7294, children of aging parents

caremanager.org

caremanager.org, national assn. of geriatric care managers

caremanager.org, national assn. of professional geriatric managers

carepages.com carepathways.org, 877 521 9987

carepages.com familycaregiverweb.com aahsa.org, american assn. of homes and services for the aging.

careplans.com, nursing care plans.

carereports.com, child and elder care database.

carescout.com, nursing home ratings, assisted living locator

carethere.com, 888-236-3961.

caring.com/tips

caringinfo.org ccal.org, consumer consortium on assisted living.

catholiccharitiesswo.org/programs/caregiver.html, caregiver assistance network works closely with churches, senior groups, employers, and other organizations in presenting educational programs on caregiving and related topics through the catholic charities southwestern ohio agency.

ccal.org, consumer consortium on assisted living.

cv.commonline.net/organizations/retiredandseniorvolunteerprogram(rsvp)

deltasociety.org, human-animal connection.

dol.gov/dol/wb/public/wbpubs/elderc, work and eldercare.

easterseals.org, 800-221-6827

ecarediary.com edenalt.com, pet program.

egyptianaaa.org/caregivingindex.htm

elderabusecenter.org

eldercare.com

eldercare.com, area agencies of aging.

eldercare.uniontrib.com, san diego.

eldercareadvocates.com

eldercareoptions.org

eldercareteam.com

elderhostel.org, activities for seniors.

elderlifecare.org elderlivingsource.com

elderweb.com

eons.com

faithinaction.org, volunteers do caregiving for neighbors.

familycareamerica.com

familycaregiving101.org/

find retirement and nursing homes, home care and other seniors services

friendshealthconnection.org, created by roxanneblack.com.

fsanet.org, family service america, network of social service organizations.

ftnside.com, fountainside eldercare inn and villas a full service assisted living eldercare community near greenville, sc.

fullcirclecare.org

geron.org, gerontological society.

givemeals.com, 800-999-6262, meals on wheels.

grandviewpalms.com, luxury assisted living

graypanthers.org, senior activists.

healthcenter.com

healthcenter.com/senior/caregiver

healthguide.com

healthy.net

healthycaregiver.com

help4seniors.org

helpguide.org

homecaremag.com home-recovery.com, home health care services and support to medical professionals, virginia.

housecalls-network.com, independent living and assisted living resources for elderly howtocare.com

iowacaregivers.org

jointcommission.org

lagunacare.com, family owned and operated small residential care facility, sacramento, ca.

lastacts.org, palliative care.

leezasplace.org, 888 ok leeza maveric.org/projects/study1a.html

local-nursing-homes.com

longevity.                                  dead website, try dotdash.com, thoughtco.com, thebalance.com, tripsavvy.com and verywell.com
/od/agingproblems/a/caregiver-men.htm, helping men be caregivers

longtermcarelocators.com

lotsahelpinghands.com, community board for caregivers.

loveyourparentstodeath.com, a site for elder care givers.

lsni.org, life services network, services for the aging and the assisted living federation of america.

ltc4everyone.com/care_education_senior.htm,  resources for care education

mcknightsonline.com

mealsonwheelsassn.org, 800-999-6262

medicare.gov/nursing/home.asp, nursing homes.

medicare.gov/publications/overview, 800-medicare.

mediconsult.com

metlife.com

mindspring.com/~eldrcare

missingpatient.com, look after your loved ones

nabweb.org, national assn. of boards of examiners for long-term care administrators.

naela.com, elder law attorneys.

nafc.org, 800-252-3337, incontinence.

nahc.org, assn. for homecare.

nahc.org, national assn. for homecare.

nasua.org, state agencies of aging.

nasw.com, national assn. of social workers

naswdc.org, assn. of social workers.

nationalcaregiversconference.org aplaceformom.com assistedlivingfacilities.org thecareguide.com, the care guide

ncal.org, national assn. for assisted living.

ncal.org, national center for assisted living.

nccnhr.org, national citizens' coalition for nursing home reform.

ncf.ca/disability

ncoa.org/nisc/nisc.htm, national institute of senior centers.

ncscinc.org, council on senior citizens.

ncsu.edu, cud@ncsu.edu, 800-647-6777, school of design, center for universal design and accessible housing information.

newlifestyles.com, 800-820-3013

nfivc.org, interfaith volunteer caregivers.

nho.org, 800-658-8898, hospice organization.

nih.gov/nia, 800-222-2225, 800-222-4225, tty, institute on aging.

nncf.unl.edu/family/eldercare/tips-caregiver

nserc.org/nursing.htm, nursing home info.

nursing-hints.com

nursingworld.org, american nurses assn.

osher.ucsf.edu/caregivers

partnershipforcaring.org

partnershipforcaring.org, 800 989 9455

patientadvocate.org

pbs.org/wgbh/caringforyourparents/handbook

pinnaclecare.com, chronic disease management.

privatedutyhomecare.org,  the national private duty association aoa.gov/aoaroot/aoa_programs/hcltc/ltc/index.aspx, long term care options.

ptct.com/html/industry

pw2.netcom.com/~lehdoll/caretaker1.html

qualityeldercare.com

rci.gsw.edu, rosalyn carter institute for caregiving.

rci.gsw.edu, rosalyn carter institute.

referenceforbusiness.com/small/di-eq/eldercare.html

retirenet.com

river2u.com

sdslane.org/inhomeres.html, senior and disabled services (s&ds) in-home care resources

seniorbridge.net

seniorcarectrs.com, senior care centers of america.

senior-care-education.dewifansite.nl

senior-directions.com

seniormag.com/caregiverresources/handbook/index.htm, caregiver's handbook

seniormag.com/services/home_health_care

seniornet.org

senioroutlook.com

seniorresource.com, 877 793 7901

sharingcare.com, 866-736-4695, alzheimer's, caregiving.

skillednursingfacilities.org theinfocenter.info/seniors/cms.php nationalhomecarenetwork.com

socialworkers.org

soros.org/death, palliative care.

ssa.gov, 800-ssa-1213, social security.

strengthforcaring.com, community for family caregivers.

temple.edu/cil, center for intergenerational learning.

thecareguide.com, find retirement and nursing homeshome care and other seniors services

thefamilycaregiver.org

thefamilycaregiver.org, 800 896 3650

thehomecaredirectory.com, lists hospices and homecare agencies.

the-park.com/kairos

thevintagegroup.net, assisted living residences.

trustcaregivers.com

usa.gov/citizen/topics/health/caregivers.shtml assistedlivingguide.com eldercare911handbook.com

visitingangels.com

vnaa.org, visiting nurses.

wellspouse.org, 800-838-0879.

whirlpoolcorp.com

workingwomenplus.com, helping adult children cope with aging parents.

 

Caregiver Websites 2

 

caregiver.on.ca, Caregiver Network, Canada.    

 

listserv.acor.org/archives/caregivers.html36, CAREGIVERS; Email list, ACOR.    

 

cancerbacup.org.uk/info/coping.htm, Coping at home: caring for someone with advanced cancer

 

friendly4seniors.com, Friendly 4 Seniors, USA

 

cancerbacup.org.uk/info/talk.htm, Lost for words; how to talk to someone with cancer

 

nfcacares.org, National Family Caregivers Association, USA

 

listserv.acor.org/archives/tc-supporters.html, TC-SUPPORTERS; Testicular Cancer Supporters Discussion Group

 

cycleofhope.org/tips.html, Tips for Caregivers

 

cancer.gov/about-cancer/coping/caregiver-support

 

helpforcancercaregivers.org/


helpforcancercaregivers.org/library


abcdbreastcancersupport.org, abcd - after breast cancer diagnosis.

caregiveraction.org, caregiver action network.

caregiver.com

 

helpforcancercaregivers.org, help for cancer caregivers.

thingsiwishidknown.com, things i wish i'd known.

cancer.org/treatment/caregivers, american cancer society - caregiver support.

advocacyconnector.com/


freecancerresources.com/


cancercare.org/


caregiveraction.org/


caregiverstress.com/


caregiver.org/


mycancercircle.lotsahelpinghands.com/caregiving/home/


caregiverslibrary.org/


netofcare.org/


strengthforcaring.com/

 

Caregiver Organizations

 

Family Caregiver Alliance

180 Montgomery St

#1100

San Francisco, CA 94104

(800) 445-8106

Fax: (415) 434-3508

info@caregiver.org

caregiver.org

 

National Alliance for Caregiving

4720 Montgomery Lane

5th Floor

Bethesda, MD 20814

info@caregiving.org

caregiving.org

 

National Caregivers Library

901 Moorefield Park Drive

#100

Richmond, VA 23236

(804) 327-1112

caregiverslibrary.org

 

The National Family Caregivers Association

10400 Connecticut Avenue

#500

Kensington, MD 20895-3944

(800) 896-3650

Fax: (301) 942-2302

info@thefamilycaregiver.org

thefamilycaregiver.org

 

Caregiver Software to be Organized

 

carebinders.com

caregiverstouch.com

 

Caregiving Resources

 

Assisted Living Federation Assn. of America

10300 Eaton Pl.

#400

Fairfax, Va 22031

703-691-8100

Fax: 703-691-8106

info@alfa.org

alfa.org

Free Guide and Checklist and list of providers in your state.  I got 26 pages worth of facilities for California.

 

Consortium On Assisted Living

703-533-8121

ccal.org

 

National Center for Assisted Living

800-555-9414

ncal.org

 

American Assn. of Homes &

Services for the Aging

901 E St. NW

#500

Washington, DC 20004-2011

800-508-9442

202-783-2242

aahsa.org

 

American Assn. of Retired Persons

601 E Street, NW

Washington, DC 20005

800-424-3410

202-434-3470

Fax: 202-434-6483

aarp.org

 

Assisted Living Federation of America

10300 Eaton Place

#400

Fairfax, VA 22030

703-691-8100

Fax: 703-691-8106

alfa.org

Information about choosing an assisted living residence.  Consumer brochure.  Online directory of assisted living.

 

CareTrust Publications

Pob 10283

Portland, OR 97296-0283

800-565-1533

503-221-1315

Fax: 503-221-7019

 

Department of Health and Human Services Medicare Office

7500 Security Blvd.

Baltimore, MD 21244

800-Medicar

800-820-1202

medicare.gov

 

Eldercare Locator

800-677-1116

nfa.org

eldercarelocator.com

Directs you to helping resources in your local area.

 

Family Caregiver Alliance

690 Market Street

#600

San Francisco, CA 94104

415-434-3388 Fax: 415-434-3508

gen-info@caregiver.org

caregiver.org

 

Family Caregivers of The Aging

409 3rd St. Sw

2nd Fl.

Washington, Dc 20024

800-424-9046

Resource center to caregivers and senior facilities.

 

LA Shanti

1616 North Labrea Ave.

Los Angeles, CA 90028

(323) 962-8197

Fax: (213) 962-8299

lashanti.org

 

National Alliance for Caregiving

4720 Montgomery Ln.

#642

Bethesda, Md 20814

703-299-9300

800-930-1357

301-718-8444 Fax: 301-652-7711

caregiving.org

 

National Family Caregivers

Association

10605 Concord St.

#501

Kensington, MD 20895

800-896-3650

nfcacares org

 

The National Association for Home

Care

228 Seventh St. NE

Washington, DC 20003

202-547-7424

nahc.org

 

National Federation of Interfaith

Volunteer Caregivers

368 Broadway

Kingston, NY 12401

914-331-1358

nfivc.org

 

National Self-Help Clearinghouse

25 West 43rd St.

#620

NYC 10036

(212) 354-8525

selfhelpweb.org

 

North Carolina State University

center for Universal Design

bok 8613

Raleigh, NC 27695-8613

800-647-6777

919-515-3082

Fax: 919-515-3023

design.ncsu.edu/cud

Home designs for disabled people.

 

Rosalyn Carter Institute

For Human Development

Georgia Southwestern College

800 Wheatley St.

Americus, GA 31709-4693

912-928-1234

gsw.edu

 

Visiting Nurse Association of America

11 Beacon St.

Boston, MA 02108

617-523-4042

vnaa.org

 

Well Spouse Foundation

30 East 40th Street

NYC 10018

800-838-0879

212-685-8815

Fax: 212-685-8676

wellspouse.org

Provides support to partners of chronically ill and/or disabled people.

 

Family Caregiver Websites

 

parentingmymom.blogspot.com

aplaceformom.com/senior-care-resources/articles/

agingparentsandeldercare.com

aging-parents-and-elder-care.com

amazon.com, hard questions for adult children and their aging parents by susan piver.

caps4caregivers.org, 800 227 7294, children of aging parents.

doityourself.com/senior/agingparents.htm

eldercarelink.com/articles/checklist-for-adult-children.html

extension.iastate.edu/homefamily/aging/caregiving/acap_curriculum.htm

fcs.tamu.edu/families/aging/elder_care/building_positive_relationships.php

feddesk.com/freehandbooks/1014-4.pdf, aging parents and adult children together.

ftc.gov/bcp/conline/pubs/services/apact/

gbod.org/coa/articles.asp, center on aging and older adult ministries.

info.wustl.edu/tips/page/normal/6190.html, adult children in the dark about aging parents.

k2z-ebooks.com, book on the subject.

kutv.com/guides/parenting/story.aspx, adult children share care of aging parents.

mediate.com/articles/generational.cfm

nfcacares.org, 800-896-3650, national family caregivers assn.

post-gazette.com/pg/06023/643035.stm, building project helps adult children care for aging parents.

pueblo.gsa.gov/cic_text/misc/aging-parents/guardianship.htm

seniorliving.                                  dead website, try dotdash.com, thoughtco.com, thebalance.com, tripsavvy.com and verywell.com
/od/retirement/a/senior_sandwich.htm

seniorsmartliving.com/seniors-and-aging-children.html

thesandwichgeneration.com, aging parents, adult children and grandchildren.

tpronline.org, youth with ill parents.

workingwomenplus.com/articles.html, articles on aging parents and adult children coping.

yourfamilyshealth.com/aging/care

 

Children of Aging Parents

1609 Woodbourne Rd.

#302

Levittown, Pa 19057

215-945-6900

800-227-7294

careguide.net

caps4caregivers.org

 

Answers: The Magazine for Adult Children of Aging Parents

75 Seabreeze Dr.

Richmond, Ca 94804-7411

 

Local Senior Programs/ Neighborhood Senior Services

 

Go to your favorite search engine and type in:

 

local senior programs your city, state

local senior programs houston, texas

 

neighborhood senior services your city, state

nonprofit senior help your city, state

 

norcblueprint.org, naturally occuring retirement community, lists nonprofit programs.

 

Set up a Caregiver Website

 

Create your own personal website to provide friends and families with a central hub to keep in touch and to organize things if several people are involved in caregiving for one person.

 

carecentral.com

caringbridge.org, free.

lotsahelpinghands.com, calendar software to stay organized.

 

Leeza's Place Community Centers That Help Caregivers With Knowledge and Support

 

The Leeza Gibbons Memory Foundation

3050 Biscayne Blvd.

#605

Miami, FL 33137

(888) OK-Leeza

leezasplace.org

info@leezasplace.org

 

Leeza's Place at Olympia Medical Center

5901 West Olympic Blvd

#300A

Los Angeles, California 90036

323-932-5414

 

Circle of Care Leeza's Place

5000 Van Nuys Boulevard

#110

Sherman Oaks, CA 91403

(818) 817-3259

 

Health First Leeza's Place

3661 Babcock Street,

Melbourne, Fl 32901

(321) 951-7118

Fax: (321) 951-7280

 

Leeza's Place at Memorial Hospital Pembroke

2261 N. University Drive

#103

Pembroke Pines, FL 33024

(954) 967-7240

Fax: (954) 967-7241

 

Leeza's Place at Provena Saint Joseph Medical Center

113 Republic Avenue

Joliet, IL 60435

(815) 741-0077

Fax: (815) 741-7069

 

Leeza's Place at WellMed

14100 Nacogdoches Rd

#120

San Antonio, TX 78247

(210) 599-4614

Fax: (210) 599-4093

 

Leeza's Place by WellMed

at the Bob Ross Senior Center

2219 Babcock Road

San Antonio, TX 78222

(210) 207-5310

Fax: (210) 589-6539

 

Leeza's Place by WellMed

In Lower Rio Grande Valley

5401 S. McColl Road

Edinburg, TX 78539

956-566-2671

 

Leeza's Place at GLEH

1602 N. Ivar Avenue

Hollywood, CA 90028

 

Grandparents as Caregivers

 

The Administration on Aging, aoa.gov, has programs to help grandparents who are raising grandchildren.  Call the eldercare locator for more information, 800-677-1116, n4a.org.  You can earn money by being a foster parent to either children or other seniors.

 

aoa.gov, administration on aging.

cwla.org, child welfare league.

ewol.com/brookdale, brookdale foundation, relatives as parents program.

fostercare.org

grandparenting.org

grandsplace.com

gu.org, generations united.

nfpainc.org, 800-557-5238, national foster parent assn.

 

Aarp Grandparent Information Center

601 E. St. Nw

Washington, Dc 20049

800-424-3410

202-434-2296

gic@aarp.org

aarp.org

 

Creative Grandparenting

100 W. 10th St.

#1007

Wilmington, De 19801

302-656-2122

Fax: 302-656-2123

 

Department of Health and Human Services

200 Independence Ave. Sw

Washington, Dc 20201

202-619-0257

hhs.gov

os.dhhs.gov

aoa.dhhs.gov, administration on aging.

acf.dhhs.gov, administration for children and families.

 

Eldercare Locator

800 677 1116

n4a.org

 

Foster Grandparents Program

National Senior Service Corps

1201 New York Ave. Nw

Washington, Dc 20525

800-424-8867

800-942-2677

202-606-5000

cns.gov/senior

If you're a low income senior, you can get paid to be a foster grandparent for 20 hours a week.

 

National Coalition of Grandparents

137 Larkin St.

Madison, Wi 53705

608-238-8751

 

Older American Volunteer Programs

Action

806 Connecticut AVE. NW

#1006

Washington, DC 20525

800-424-8867

800-424-8580

They have a foster grandparent and senior companion program where you get paid to help out.

 

Retired Senior Volunteer Program

1100 Vermont AVE. NW

Washington, DC 20525

202-606-4851

800-424-8867

Advocates volunteer work like foster grandparents.

 

Rocking, Inc.

Raising Our Children's Kids

Pob 96

Niles, Mi 49102

616-683-9038

 

Volunteers of America

#400

3939 N. Causeway Blvd.

Metaire, La 70002

504-837-2652

Fax: 504-837-4200

voa.org

Foster grandparent and senior volunteer programs.

 

Volunteer Grandparents

1734 W. Broadway

#3

Vancouver, Bc V6j 1y1

Be a foster grandparent.

 

Cancer Caregiver Websites

 

patientresource.com/Finding_Caregivers_and_Counselors.aspx

 

cancer.org/treatment/caregivers/index

 

cancer.gov/cancertopics/coping/familyfriends

 

abta.org/care-treatment/caregivers

 

cancer.org/

cancer.org/treatment/supportprogramsservices/onlinecommunities/participateinacancereducationclass/icancopeonline/index

apos-society.org/

cancercare.org/

caringbridge.org/

caregiver.org/

lotsahelpinghands.com/

nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/

nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/caregivers.html

canceradvocacy.org/

/caregiveraction.org/

sharethecare.org/

 

Chapter 4. Eldercare Resources

 

Eldercare Websites/ Senior Care Websites

 

The field of eldercare refers to caring for older people either at home or in some kind of facility like a nursing home, adult daycare center, continuous care retirement home, etc.

 

Some elders don't need eldercare.  They live in their own homes or in a retirement community.

 

Try this formula:

 

elderweb.com/region/**/**.htm

elderweb.com/region/al/al.htm

elderweb.com/region/nm/nm.htm

 

howtodothings.com/family-and-relationships/a4142-how-to-find-senior-care-resources.html

 

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